Knowing About Emotions refers to how much your child knows about emotions (including the relationship between his/her thoughts, behaviors, and positive and negative feelings) and the degree to which your child’s knowledge about emotions helps him/her overcome stress and negative feelings. This is important because knowing about emotions can help your child take active steps towards changing his/her thoughts and behaviors to feel better.
Without adequate knowledge about emotions, your child may not understand how he/she can take a more active approach to feeling happier or believe that he/she can change.
Problem Solving refers to how often your child identifies repeating difficulties and problems in his/her life (that contribute to making him/her stressed); thinks of multiple, different solutions to his/her problems; evaluates the pros and cons of each solution; and continues to try out solutions, even if initial attempts don’t succeed.
Engaging in Problem Solving is important in order to remove the various sources of stress in life. Without using Problem Solving skills regularly, stressors can quickly accumulate, making it more likely to get upset, worried, or depressed.
This area refers to how negatively or positively you think about yourself, world, and future. It is common to make negative guesses, such as worrying that bad things will always happen, even if most times they don’t. When bad things do happen, it is also common to catastrophize and feel that the negative event is worse than it actually is. These types of negative thinking patterns are referred to as ‘Cognitive Distortions.’
Without learning to effectively manage these negative Cognitive Distortions, they can lead to a tremendous amount of fear, anger, and worry, and cause us to lose motivation and excitement in life. Learning to change these negative thinking patterns is one of the goals of measuring this area.
Self-Rewards & Self-Praise refers to how often your child rewards and praises him/herself after working hard or achieving something. Self-Rewards & Self-Praise is important because it can help motivate your child to continue to work towards important goals, increase your child’s self-esteem, and help your child feel good about him/herself.
Without adequate Self-Rewards & Self-Praise, children can easily feel frustrated, lose motivation, and eventually give up.
Goal-Setting refers to (a) the degree to which your child has goals in different areas of his/her life that are clear, specific, and meaningful, and also (b) the degree to which she/she is actively working towards those goals in effective, realistic, and achievable ways.
Goal-Setting is important because working towards and achieving (even small) goals instills optimism, hope and excitement in life regarding waking up each day to work hard and taking steps towards achieving meaningful outcomes and experiences in life.
Pleasant Activity Scheduling refers to how much your child engages in things that your child enjoys doing, looks forward to, and makes him/her feel happy. These can include many activities, such as sports and outings with friends, etc. Pleasant Activity Scheduling is important because it helps children enjoy their lives (while they are working hard in other areas of their lives, such as school).
Without Pleasant Activities, a child’s life can easily come to lack adequate amounts of fun, positive stimulation, and reinforcement to make life enjoyable and exciting to live.
Relaxation Skills refers to how often your child engages in relaxing activities and uses specific relaxation skills that calm your child’s mind and body. Taking time to engage in relaxing activities is important because becoming physiologically relaxed and slowing down our mind can directly reduce our stress and improve our health.
Without adequate relaxation, our bodies can easily become constantly tense and our minds overly full of stressful thoughts and worries.
Talent Building refers to the degree to which your child is actively developing his/her skills or talents in one or more area that is meaningful and enjoyable to him/her. Talent Building is important because it can help increase your child’s confidence and self-esteem, and also help make your child’s life more enjoyable and productive.
Without adequate Talent Building, life can start to feel mundane as your child loses out on opportunities to develop meaningful and enriching talents and skills.
Stimulus/Cue Management refers to the degree to which your child actively manages his/her environment, time schedules, and other cues to make life easier to live and increase feelings of happiness. For example, our physical environmental, such as the cleanliness of our desk, can give us positive feelings and also make it easier to stay focused and study. It is common for children to not realize that one’s environmental has a strong impact on their moods, emotions, and behaviors.
Without adequate Stimulus/Cue Management, your child may be struggling more than he/she needs to. Making specific and systematic changes to your child’s environment and time schedules can often help a great deal.
Facing Your Fears refers to the extent to which your child faces and approaches his/her fears in life in order to reduce, overcome, and be free of the things that scare him and hold him back in life. This is important because fears often lead us to avoid many things in life that can be healthy for us, such as talking with others, trying new activities, and exploring new opportunities, etc.
Without ‘Facing Your Fears,’ it is easy for your child to be fearful of the same things for his/her entire life, preventing your child from having more enriching experiences in life and experiencing more peace and calmness with his/her environment and people around him/her.
Social Skills refers to how well your child can effectively speak and talk with others in day-to-day conversations. Social Skills is important because effective social skills can contribute to more positive interactions, making friends, bonding, and engaging in more positive and enjoyable conversations with others.
Without adequate social skills, a child can more easily find him/herself isolated with fewer friends to support him/her.
Communication Skills (as a speaker) refers to how well your child can communicate his/her needs effectively with others. This is important because effective communication skills (as a speaker) can increase your child’s ability to enlist help from people in his/her environment and have more positive conversations with close people in his/her life.
Without adequate communication skills (as a speaker), a child will be less likely to clearly and calmly state what he/she needs, thereby decreasing the amount of help he/she can receive from others in his/her life.
Communication Skills (as a listener) refers to how well your child listens to others when communicating with them. Effective communication skills (as a listener) is important because it can increase your child’s ability to understand other’s around him/her who are seeking help and to know how to best help them.
Without adequate communication skills (as a listener), others can more easily become frustrated with your child and feel that your child is not able to understand them.
Assertiveness Skills refers to how well your child is able to tell others calmly and clearly what he/she needs when your child feels repeatedly frustrated, hurt, or intimidated by others. Assertiveness Skills is important because it can help reduce and eliminate the degree to which your child frequently experiences hurt and intimidation by others, thereby reducing painful experiences in your child’s life.
Without adequate Assertiveness Skills, your child’s life can become increasingly filled with hurtful interactions and experiences that could otherwise be avoided.